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| Tips Section: Flirting & Finding Yourself a Date | |
| Who Has the Time to Date? |
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How
can you ever meet Mr. or Ms. Right (or even Mr. or Ms. Not So
Obviously Wrong) if you can’t even find the time to go on a first,
let alone second date? Lately, whenever I do meet someone interesting who is actually single (or so they tell me), before we can even schedule a date they’re off on an extended overseas business trip, making a pilgrimage to Nepal, or involved in a 3-week long trial (as the lawyer, not the defendant … or so they tell me). And I’m just as bad because I plan most of my limited free time and vacations well in advance with family and friends. Who wants to chance being stuck home alone on vacation, or on the one night of the week you aren’t working or having to watch Toy Story with your child for the millionth time? (Admittedly, I like Toy Story because it’s “single mom friendly” for a Disney movie; meaning that the mom is clearly a single parent, and better yet, she actually gets to live beyond the opening credits.) But shouldn’t the fact that we have PDA’s and worldwide wireless capabilities 24/7/365 make connecting and staying in touch easier? I suppose. After all one gentleman who I occasionally date can call me from an elevator in Stockholm or a plaza in Venice; and we can e-mail at all hours of the night (which is preferable to calling, as who can ever remember the proper time zone for Prague). And I can also stay in contact with several other great guys I’ve met who live in different cities and countries. But that’s not really dating, that’s just communicating. However, just communicating is actually working for me right now because it beats the “extreme scheduling” I had last year with my single dad boyfriend where 90% of the communications were about trying to schedule an actual date. First we’d map out our children’s swim lessons and soccer games as well as our own work commitments; next we’d go over the upcoming month’s schedules with our respective exes; we would then compare results and usually go back and renegotiate with the exes. After all that, we might work out one or two nights in a month for just us and maybe a play date or two with the kids. Eventually I started wondering why date someone exclusively if you still had to go to weddings and dinner parties alone? So now I’m eagerly awaiting the day when someone invents technology where, before you even bother to walk across the room to meet someone or get set up on that blind date, your PDA’s can virtually pre-screen each other’s calendars for availability over the next three months (physical availability that is, not emotional … although the two do seem to go hand in hand). But until then, it’s like my favorite Christmas song by The Waitresses, where the girl and guy can’t manage to schedule a date until finally running into each other a year later buying cranberry sauce on Christmas Eve. Unfortunately in my life, there never seems to be that chance meeting over a condiment. Perhaps for the sake of
the continuation of the human race it’s time we all toned down our
schedules … because it won’t be long before PDA’s (personal
digital assistants) completely replace PDA’s (public displays of
affection). Either that or we all need to start hanging out in
supermarkets during the holidays. But who has the time for that? View Photos of Singles .... Click here! Back to Top |
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