Everyone's story of how they found their love is different. But one thing is for sure — you're not going to meet anyone with a beer (or herbal tea) in one hand and a TV remote in the other.

1. Set realistic goals. If you're saving yourself for Pamela Anderson or Prince William, you may be waiting a long time. If you expect to date only 10s, make sure you're a 10 yourself. Look at yourself with the same critical eye that you'd size up a potential mate. What kind of person do you see standing by your side?

You don't have to change yourself to find someone who'll love you. You might have to adjust your expectations if they're too high. Not every man is a millionaire, and not every woman is a model. True partnership is based on mutual interests, though of course personal chemistry is part of that equation too.

2. Presentation 101. You're marketing yourself as a potential life partner... so put the best package out there that you can. Lose that extra 10 pounds, and invest in clothes that make you feel as good as they make you look. Also, invest a few minutes a day in basic grooming. Being your natural charming self is what you're aiming for. Don't ruin your chances by looking like you don't care about yourself enough to keep your hair trimmed or your teeth brushed.

3. Take your social life seriously. If you've decided you want to find your special someone, take it as seriously as you would take hunting a new job or acing a class. Try to put yourself into situations where you talk to at least one potential romantic partner at least once a week.

Taking up a hobby isn't just the way to pass some time until you meet the right person. Sometimes it's a direct route to meeting the right person. There are very few clubs or organizations that don't have at least a few marriages among the members. Ever wanted to take up skydiving, or cooking, or bowling? What's stopping you?

4. Familiarity often breeds affection. Talk to your neighbors. Smile at your coworkers. Even if it seems like "all the good ones are taken," if you take a good look around you you'll find social opportunities. Married friends have single friends. Neighbors have cute cousins. The more people you know, the more you meet.

5. Be good to yourself. When you feel happy and relaxed your natural personality is more likely to shine, whether it's at a party or in the laundromat. Remember, just because you're not in love does not mean you're not lovable. If you're happy with your own life it sets the tone of your sociability. People are attracted to other people who make them happy. So make time to do things you really love and you just might trip over romance when you least expect it.

No matter what the social situation, the most important fashion essential is a smile. So take a great photo of yourself, and post it online. Meet your match today! You may be surprised by who smiles back.