You, miss, only get one
chance to make a first impression. So when it comes to your first
date, pack your baggage as lightly as possible. Really, you need only
five essential items.
1. Cell phone.
No, not so you can receive an "emergency" call in case you
need to beat a hasty retreat. That trick predates the rotary phone;
it's insulting and frankly unnecessary. Why? Sure, some first dates
are worthy of quick escapes, but that's why you plan them to be brief
in the first place. Just a drink or coffee before the next thing on
your schedule. A first date does not merit a five-course meal or even
a dinner and a movie. You like him, you hope for a second, open-ended
date; you don't like him, you'll live through one latte. Wait, then
what's the cell phone for? To call your best friend with a report from
the ladies' room. No matter how the date is going, checking in for a
giggle moment makes the date fun, no matter what. And isn't that kind
of the point of this whole dating thing?
2. Texture.
Here’s a top tip from friend-boys: wear something soft and touchable
— a velvet top, angora sweater, silky pants. Drives 'em nuts, but
let them wait until Date #2 before they actually get to touch.
3. Breath mints.
Specifically those cool, paper-thin strips that look like plastic but
magically melt in your mouth. Win-win-win-win: They're (a) strong
enough to combat even the fiercest garlic attack, (b) a great topic
for a lagging conversation, (c) a perfect "conversation
piece" if your date has breath issues, and (d) a potentially
sassy flirting move ("Gee, isn't that a wild feeling on your
tongue?").
4. Discretion.
Do not mention dud dates, evil exes or lingering loneliness. Not one
word. Positivity — even a little mystery — is the better part of
valor.
5. Perspective.
Though having a string of unappealing dates can be wearing, it’s
almost never a waste of time. For one thing, the worst that can happen
is a good story (see Tip #1). And at this stage of the dating game,
you should be most interested in quantity; you have to go on lots of
first dates so that your judgment and perspective remain intact, so
that you don't overrate someone's appeal by thinking "He's the
one!” when in fact he’s only the one who called! For now, quantity
begets quality. Each date, no matter how taxing, counts. So even
the worst first date gets you one step closer to the best!
Armed with the info
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Lynn Harris, Match.com