Face it, none of us look like we did at 21. So, do we expect our prospective mate to look that good now? Even at 35? I think not.

As our bodies grow older, our minds grow wiser. In our early 20’s, we wanted a good looking, tan, well dressed, rich, fun guy to party with. It didn’t matter if a conversation with him was like talking to a wall, as long as we looked good together.

But things have changed. We’ve left the sheltered college world of size sixes, fraternity parties, and the parental checking account. We’re working real jobs, paying real bills, and looking for a real mate. Physical appearance just doesn’t cut it any more (although it might for about three dates.) It’s time to look beyond that cute face and body, because at some point it will give in to time and bad genes anyway.

Our standards have changed, not lowered. Some might even say they have raised. We have finally realized what is truly important to us, and in our relationships. Why waste what precious time we have on someone with absolutely no potential? Over the years we have slid into the understanding that we need a “partner in life.” Someone who can be a best friend, a lover, a caring parent, and a soul mate, while still keeping their own identity.

Finding all of this is hard enough before throwing looks in there. At this point in life, is it worth passing up the possibility of “the one” because he’s gained a few extra pounds?

I have a friend that stopped dating guys for a variety of trivial reasons. The appearance of back hair, uneven teeth, one eye larger than the other, and even wearing sunglasses on top of a hat. The question is, could any of these men been “the one?” The truth is probably not. If that were the case, she would have been able to look past the thought of shaving someone’s back.

But these men were never given a chance to prove their inner worth. In today’s world of plastic surgery, tanning beds, and 24-hour fitness, it has become too easy for us to dismiss those with minor physical flaws and go after the “perfect 10.” But as we grow wiser, we must understand that most 10s will not be perfect forever.

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