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than 48% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals. The
American Association for Single People projects that by 2010, 47.2% of
adults will be unmarried. Being single does not mean being alone, not
does being in a couple for the holidays insure happiness. Let’s dispel
some myths!
Myth:
Single people are lonely at Christmas.
Reality: No moreso than anyone else. This is a projection of
people who fear “being alone for the holidays,” a fear of the
unknown.
Myth:
Single people need you to invite them over to your celebration.
Reality: Contrary to perceptions, single people are v. popular at
Christmas, and we generally receive lots of invitations. If you want us
over, invite us, but because you like us, not because you think we need
it.
Myth:
Single people don’t know what to do for the holidays.
Reality: On the contrary, we are used to planning our social
lives actively, good at generating options, and used to making
unilateral decisions. We’re pros!
Myth:
Single people are available to perform certain social tasks during the
holiday celebration.
Reality: We like to be cherished guests. We don’t like to be
the steer among the bulls – invited to get people who don’t get
along off of one another’s throats. If you don’t like your family
and friends, why would we? “Can you come over and help out with Aunt
Edna?” is not an invitation.
Myth:
Single people are available to do certain physical tasks during the
holiday celebration.
Reality: Nor is this an invitation: “It’s John’s in-laws
and I want to impress them. Can you come over and help with the hors
d’oeuvres?” As best-friend, yes; as the only working-guest,
absolutely not.
Myth:
Single people are misfits, outsiders.
Reality: On the contrary, most of us have highly developed
Emotional Intelligence skills; that’s the reason we get the ‘rescue
us’ invitations! Outsiders? It’s about half the adult world now.
Take another look!
Myth:
If a single person isn’t part of a couple, or doesn’t spend
Christmas with a couple or family, they will be miserable.
Reality: Come on now. Is it so horrible to celebrate Christmas on
a cruise to the Caribbean, coming back rested, tanned and relaxed?
Myth:
The only “happy” way to spend the holidays is if you are a couple or
part of a family.
Reality: If that were so, half the articles on the Internet this
time of year wouldn’t be about how to cope with the annual holiday
dinner with the relatives, and the divorce rate in the US wouldn’t be
50%.
Myth:
Single people have “nowhere to go” for the holidays.
Reality: Nowhere to go? We have everywhere to go! I loved my
years as Mrs. Santa. Now I’m on-the-go. I’m thinking about Germany
this year. There are so many places to go I can’t decide!!
In fact I have so many
neat ideas for spending Christmas on-your-own, if you’re stuck I’ll
give you a FREE coaching session. Give me a call – 210-496-0678.
About the Author
Susan Dunn, San Antonio, TX, USA
sdunn@susandunn.cc
http://www.susandunn.cc
Susan Dunn, MA, Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The
EQ Coach™ . Coaching resources, tools and support for your
personal and professional development. EQ
Alive! - EQ Coach training and certification. Susan is the author of
numerous ebooks,
including "How to Live Your Life with Emotional Intelligence,"
"Depression," and "EQ's Answer to Addiction: the 14th
Step." She is widely published on the Internet, a syndicated
columnist for WebProNews and Family-Content, and a regular speaker for
cruise lines. She offers home study programs through her distance
learning school.
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