It was, I thought, a
great first date. The wine flowed, the conversation sparkled, he
seemed genuinely interested in everything I had to say, and he
promised to call in a few days time. Then nothing. Silence. No matter
how hard I stared at the telephone, it simply refused to ring. What
could have happened to prevent him from making contact? Had he been, I
wondered, in some sort of horrible traffic accident?
Unfortunately, the
explanation was much simpler; his parting phrase, "I'll call
you," was a polite way of saying nothing at all. Perhaps I ought
to consider that the date didn't go as well as I had previously
thought. Here are a few sure-fire moves to ensure that the next time
around, he will call after all:
- Show
some skin
Men like to see women's bodies. Sad
but true. This absolutely does not mean that you need to go out
and buy a mini skirt so short that you can't sit down; a
knee-grazing skirt, a slightly form-fitting blouse, or a dress
that exposes a lovely bit of neck will do. Even a subtle show of
flesh reminds him of your femininity and makes you seem
accessible.
- Get
your hands on him
A gentle touch is probably the most
effective form of flirtation; it awakens his physical sensations,
conveys warmth and sensuality...and gives him something to
fantasize about. If you don't want to appear too forward, simply
touch his arm lightly for emphasis while you're talking, or
charmingly grasp his upper arm for a few moments as you cross the
street. Daring souls can try grazing her leg against his under the
table or at a movie theater, and the more advanced flirt can
"accidentally" rub her body against his as she gets in
and out of a car.
- Do
not, under any circumstances, discuss...
Even if he is ready to start a
family, most men early in the dating game are allergic to the
topics of marriage and kids. The woman who brings them up seems
desperate, and he feels as though he is being interviewed for a
job instead of appreciated for his individual qualities. Also
forbidden: any mention of previous boyfriends; most men are leery
of getting involved with women who seem unresolved about the past.
If your date asks you pointed questions about the matter, laugh
playfully, as though it were a subject of no great importance, and
say, "Oh, I'll tell you about that the next time I see
you." Which brings us to...
- Make
lighthearted references to a future event
Indirectly suggest the types of
places you like to go and activities you enjoy so that he doesn't
have to guess what to propose in the future. You might, for
example, mention a favorite restaurant or a movie you'd like to
see.
- Linger
a little longer
If you don't think it's the moment
for a goodnight kiss, at the very least let your gaze linger a
moment longer as you say good-bye. The promise of intimacy is a
powerful incentive for bringing somebody back to you. And if
you've been especially impressed, lock lips — you've got nothing
to lose!
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